3 No Contact Mistakes That Your Ex Will Hate You For

-- 3 No Contact Mistakes That Your Ex Will Hate You For. Learn about Limited No Contact If youre using the No Contact strategy to help win back your ex then youre going to want to watch this video all the way to the end because Im going to tell you about the 3 most common mistakes people make when employing No Contact and why all 3 of them are going to anger your ex and hurt your chances of ever getting them back. As you already know Im Brad Browning and Ive been a breakup coach for over a decade.
My channel here on YouTube has over 60 million views and counting and Ive helped over 130000 clients get through a breakup or win back their ex.
In fact I even helped to popularize the No Contact strategy and make it one of the most recommended tactics for getting a second chance with an ex so I know what Im talking about on this topic and I promise that youll regret making any of the 3 mistakes Im about to cover. Lets start with the first mistake. Mistake 1 Telling your ex youre going to go No Contact and stop talking to them. I dont know why so many people feel the need to tell their ex that they plan to use No Contact.
Maybe its because they want to warn their ex that theyre about to disappear or maybe some people just think that you need to tell your ex that youre going to stop talking to them for a while for this technique to be effective. Either way its absolutely NOT necessary and in fact its usually a very bad idea.
Typically you do NOT need to let your ex know that you plan to go No Contact on them.
Doing so is usually a big mistake and its going to anger or upset your ex if you do tell them.
From your exs perspective hearing that you plan to just suddenly stop talking to them is going to be upsetting theyll wonder why you feel its necessary and often theyll think youre doing it to punish them or try to get back at them for breaking up with you.
The only exception is in situations when you need to use my Clean Slate message template.
This is only applicable if youve made a bunch of serious mistakes already -- begging and pleading with your ex for instance.
If that describes your current situation you can watch the full video on my website BreakupBrad.com to learn more about how and when to send the Clean Slate message to your ex.
Otherwise its almost always safe to begin your period of No Contact without telling your ex youre doing it. Mistake 2 Being rude or ignoring important messages from your ex during No Contact. OK let me clear up one thing here: you should not always ignore every message your ex sends you during the 30 days of No Contact.
Yes many of your exs attempts to contact you can be safely ignored and thats what I recommend in many cases.
If theyre reaching out just to say whats up or theyre sending you a late-night drunk text those types of messages can and should be ignored especially the first few times.
After all No Contact is intended to shut down as much communication with your ex as possible. BUT there are absolutely times where a reply is necessary.
For example if your ex is asking you something important or meaningful you are likely going to have to respond to them or theyre eventually going to get angry.
This applies especially to situations where you have kids together live or lived together etc if your ex is asking you to pay a shared phone bill telling you to pick up the kids from soccer practice or asking you to return their favorite sweater you will need to reply and take care of the issue or you risk blowback from your ex.
You dont have to reply right away and you dont have to make much small talk or turn their message into a back-and-forth conversation just do whatever you need to in order to satisfy your exs request and then go back to No Contact.
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